Why was forming friendships so much easier when we were younger? What is it about people, that as we grow older, we are less willing (or able?) to form new meaningful relationships with other people. I’m not talking about shallow acquaintances that you meet once or twice at a bar.. but a meaningful (platonic) friendship where you connect on a deeper level, with that level of trust and openness to share what is in your heart.
Is it lazyness? The fact that by this age, most everyone already has an established circle of close friends/partner and feels no need to form new ones. Is it lack of trust, that past experiences have taught them cynicism or bitterness, to be less open, to avoid getting hurt. Or is it just some shy individual’s fault, that they just don’t try hard enough to connect with people.
And whilst we’re on that.. why is it that people often seem to love the outgoing loud person, and ignore the quieter, shy one. It’s like an automatic labelling: loud = friendly, shy = unfriendly. Is that necessarily true? I’m sure that the shy person is just as keen on forming friendships.. equally in need of meaningful companionship. Maybe they just don’t get the chance to get a word in edgewise, in the cacophony of noise everyone else is making. Maybe it’s how life is now.. where everyone and everything is shouting louder and louder to be heard, and the ones that don’t, sink into oblivion.
Hrmm.. I should probably stop listening to Bluebottle Kiss.. makes my posts kinda angsty. Not that I can understand half the lyrics… I mean, does ANYONE out there know the lyrics to “Hello Stranger”? I’ve searched all of google and can’t find it anywhere. I can’t understand a word he’s saying except “Hello Stranger”!
Blah. The cryptic musings have resurfaced!
So I look in your direction
But you pay me no attention
And you know how much I need you
But you never even see me
Current listening :: “Hello Stranger” – Bluebottle KissPosted in Introspection, Life | 3 Comments »